Welcome! This blog offers practical resources for understanding and healing burnout, guilt, betrayal and anxiety.
You'll find expert, easy-to-use tools informed by EMDR, Somatics, Brainspotting, and IFS to heal the root of chronic overwhelm and live with more ease and clarity.
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Why Perfectionism Is a Trauma Response & How to Heal It
You've built your success on being in control. But what if your perfectionism is really a trauma response, a shield against past hurts and criticism? This post explores the exhausting reality of living with this survival strategy and offers a gentle path to healing. It's time to trade the relentless pressure for a life of genuine self-trust and peace - read on to learn how.
Reclaiming Your Self: After Romantic Narcissistic Abuse
Romantic narcissistic abuse doesn’t start with overt cruelty. Instead, it’s a devastating cycle that slowly pulls you in and holds you captive, often disguised as passionate love. Understanding this is a vital first step in your recovery, helping you see that their behavior isn't about your worth or actions, but their manipulation. This post guides you through the impacts on your inner world and your courageous path to reclaiming yourself.
When Home Hurts: Finding Healing from Childhood Abuse
Do you carry a heavy anxiety, feeling like you're always doing too much or are never quite enough? These feelings often stem from upsetting, abusive childhood experiences, especially if safety was compromised by those meant to protect you. Your ACE score offers a compassionate lens to understand these past hurts. Discover how specialized therapy can guide you toward healing these old wounds and reclaiming your authentic self. If you had a difficult childhood, this one’s for you.
Fuck "Forgive and Forget": Healing After Infidelity with EMDR Therapy
Your spouse had an affair, and now you're here. The shock of betrayal can shatter your world and peace. If you're struggling to move past the pain, know that true healing is possible. Discover how EMDR therapy can help you process the trauma and reclaim your life. Read on to learn about recovering from betrayal trauma.
Supporting a Loved One Through Pregnancy Loss: A Guide for Friends and Family
Watching someone you care about navigate pregnancy loss is heartbreaking. Words often feel inadequate, and actions clumsy. This guide helps friends and family understand complex grief and trauma, showing you how to truly be present. Because while you can't fix their loss, your support makes a real difference. Read on to learn how to help.
A Step-by-Step Guide to Healing from Betrayal Trauma with EMDR
If you recently discovered an affair and you’re feeling lost, angry, and confused - this one’s for you. The ground beneath you has shattered, and you’ve been transported into a world you never wanted to be in. The discovery of infidelity is brutal, and that sense of impending doom, the foggy memory, and the intense emotional swings are real. Read on for a step-by-step guide to using EMDR for betrayal trauma.
The Hidden Cost: Why "Pushing Through" Leads to Burnout, Not Peace
You're constantly pushing through, feeling drained and resentful, but can't seem to stop. This relentless hustle carries a hidden cost, impacting your body and peace of mind. What if the key to your well-being lies in understanding your nervous system and inner self? Discover why your old strategies aren't working and find a new path to genuine freedom.
Dating with Your Nervous System: A Guide for the Successful Adult
You’re a successful woman, but dating feels heavy. Beneath the surface, the guilt and people-pleasing that helped you cope with past stress are silently draining you. This post is for you. It's a guide to understanding how your nervous system influences your dating life and how to heal those deep-seated patterns to find a truly connected partnership.
So Your Over-Responsible Heart Adopted a Reactive Dog? An IFS Guide
You poured your heart into helping your reactive dog, but when progress feels out of reach, the drain and guilt are immense. What if the key to their calm lies in understanding your own nervous system? This isn't just about dog training. Read on to learn to walk a surprising path to peace for both you and your beloved companion.
Why Betrayal Trauma Hits Harder When You're Used to Being in Control
If you manage complexities and lead with confidence, being betrayed is a huge disruption to your sense of order. This particular kind of trauma hits especially hard, impacting your ability to function and leaving you questioning everything. Learn why betrayal trauma sabotages your usual coping methods and how deeply it affects your brain and body. Discover powerful strategies, including EMDR, to reclaim your peace and natural strength.
Why Do I Feel Guilty When They Cheated?: Quick Read
"Why do I feel guilty when they cheated?" This question hits hard, and it's shockingly common to feel a wave of misplaced guilt after betrayal. As a high-achieving caretaker, this can feel even more disorienting, adding to the immense weight you already carry. This post unpacks why that guilt creeps in, exploring the "I wasn't enough" trap and the caretaker's burden. Learn to understand your guilt, release the burden and step into your confidence.
Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy for Betrayal: Is It Right For Me?
Finding out about betrayal hits incredibly hard, often a confusing mix of disbelief, anger, and shock. This upsetting experience can make simple things, like feeling happy or curious, feel almost impossible. Traditional coping methods often don't reach these deep hurts, leaving many feeling stuck. Discover how Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy offers a powerful path to heal and reclaim your vibrant self.
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