Inside My Mind: A Therapist’s Blog
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Why Betrayal Trauma Hits Harder When You're Used to Being in Control
If you manage complexities and lead with confidence, being betrayed is a huge disruption to your sense of order. This particular kind of trauma hits especially hard, impacting your ability to function and leaving you questioning everything. Learn why betrayal trauma sabotages your usual coping methods and how deeply it affects your brain and body. Discover powerful strategies, including EMDR, to reclaim your peace and natural strength.

Why Do I Feel Guilty When They Cheated?: Quick Read
"Why do I feel guilty when they cheated?" This question hits hard, and it's shockingly common to feel a wave of misplaced guilt after betrayal. As a high-achieving caretaker, this can feel even more disorienting, adding to the immense weight you already carry. This post unpacks why that guilt creeps in, exploring the "I wasn't enough" trap and the caretaker's burden. Learn to understand your guilt, release the burden and step into your confidence.

Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy for Betrayal: Is It Right For Me?
Finding out about betrayal hits incredibly hard, often a confusing mix of disbelief, anger, and shock. This upsetting experience can make simple things, like feeling happy or curious, feel almost impossible. Traditional coping methods often don't reach these deep hurts, leaving many feeling stuck. Discover how Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy offers a powerful path to heal and reclaim your vibrant self.

Why We Can’t “Just Have Fun!” After an Affair (And How to Get Fun Back)
When an affair shatters your world, fun and curiosity vanish, replaced by betrayal and a brain in survival mode. You might feel lost, frozen, and wonder if joy is possible ever again. Society might expect you to "just move on," but that dismisses the deep relational trauma that truly lingers. Discover how to reclaim your openness, curiosity, and even fun after betrayal. Read to learn about different types of therapy and how they heal betrayal trauma.

It's Not Just Heartbreak: EMDR for Healing Breakup and Divorce Trauma
Struggling with the end of a relationship? A breakup or divorce can be the upheaval of life as you knew it. You might feel lost, frozen, and wonder if true healing is even possible. Society often expects us to "just move on," but that dismisses the deep relational trauma that lingers. Discover how EMDR therapy offers an effective pathway to process this unique grief and reclaim peace. Read on to learn if EMDR might be right for you.

Release the Pain of Infidelity with Brainspotting: A Powerful Approach
“There are three sides to every story: yours, mine, and the truth." When infidelity hits, it shatters your world. Discover how Brainspotting therapy can help you navigate betrayal trauma, release deep-seated pain, rebuild self-trust, and find peace. If you want to release the pain from infidelity, Brainspotting might be the choice for you. Read more about Brainspotting for infidelity in this blog post.

Navigating the After of an Affair: Find Your Footing with EMDR Therapy
When an affair hits, it doesn't just hurt – it feels like your whole world flips upside down. You're left in pain, wondering how to make sense of anything. As a therapist, I know this isn't just about anger or sadness, it's a deep betrayal trauma that shakes you to your core. But here's the powerful truth: you can heal from this. Discover how EMDR therapy can help you find calm, rebuild self-trust, and reclaim your story after infidelity. This is your path to peace.

The Unspoken Grief: Understanding Betrayal Trauma and Its Impact
We typically associate grief with loss through death, but the world of loss is much more complex. One of the most misunderstood forms of grief arises from the shattering experience of betrayal, particularly in the context of infidelity within a committed relationship. This is betrayal trauma, and understanding it as a form of deep grief is crucial for healing from an affair. Read this post to learn more about grief and betrayal trauma.