Welcome! This blog offers practical resources for understanding and healing burnout, guilt, betrayal and anxiety.
You'll find expert, easy-to-use tools informed by EMDR, Somatics, Brainspotting, and IFS to heal the root of chronic overwhelm and live with more ease and clarity.
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Why Am I Scared of Myself? High-Functioning Trauma & Control
You can be successful, professional, and competent…and still feel unsafe inside your own body. If you’re holding it together but quietly reactive, chronically tense, or secretly afraid of losing control, this post explains what’s happening in your nervous system and how EMDR therapy can help you find safety, regulation, and more ease. If you want to learn how to feel without losing it, read this post.
EMDR for Grieving an Abusive or Neglectful Parent
Grief after childhood abuse or grieving a complicated relationship with a caretaker isn’t straightforward. It’s layered with trauma, unfinished attachment, and beliefs like “it was my fault.” EMDR therapy helps you reprocess what happened so you can mourn without staying stuck in survival mode. If you’re looking for a way to process a difficult relationship with a person responsible for your wellbeing, EMDR might be for you.
When Grief Gets Stuck: EMDR & Parts Work For Loss
Grief isn’t something to fix or complete. Sometimes a part of us remains stuck in the moment everything changed, holding the shock, guilt, and pain that were too much to process at the time. From an EMDR and IFS pov, this is what “complicated grief” can looklike in the nervous system. Healing isn’t about forgetting - it’s helping those stuck parts come back into the present. Click to learn how to help your grief.
What Trauma Really Is (& Why You Might Not Call Yours Trauma)
Trauma isn’t always caused by one big event. For many people, it develops quietly through chronic stress, emotional neglect, or having to stay “on” for too long without enough support. This post explores what trauma really is, including Big T and little t trauma, and why high-functioning people often don’t recognize their own trauma. Read more about what trauma really is — and why you might not call yours trauma.
Feeling Lonely During the Holidays? A Therapist’s Guide to Connection
The holidays can make loneliness feel louder, even when you’re not alone. Grief, unmet needs, and high expectations can create a deep emotional hurt. This therapist-created guide shows how loneliness lives in your body and offers gentle, actionable strategies to soothe it. Read on and discover ways to reconnect with yourself and find calm during the season.
To the Nearly Burnt-Out Caretaker in 2025
We’re living through a time that assaults empathy, and for those who care, it’s taking a real toll. This post is an open letter to the helpers, healers, and deeply feeling people who are exhausted. If you’ve been cycling through dread, anger, and collapse, you’re not alone — your nervous system is responding exactly as a caring system should. Read this post for how to stay human, stay grounded, and stay connected without burning out.
Empathy Beyond Blood: How to Keep Caring
We talk about "self-care" and "boundaries," but rarely how to keep caring for each other. In this personal entry, I write about and explore empathy as a vital force for connection, examining its forms and offering practical ways to engage deeply without becoming overwhelmed. If you’re a caring, empathetic person, but feel worried that you’re burning out, this one’s for you.
Surviving the Holidays When You're Grieving
The holidays are supposed to bring joy and connection. When you’re grieving, they can feel like hollow reminders of what’s missing. Lights, music, gatherings..it can all be too much. But you don’t have to pretend you’re “fine.” Read this trauma-informed guide to help you understand your body, mind, and nervous system, and get easy-to-use tools rooted in somatic therapy, IFS, and EMDR to move through the holidays with care and presence.
Healing from Childhood Bullying: EMDR for Confidence
For many adults, childhood bullying lives quietly in the body, shaping how safe we feel with others. The teasing, exclusion, or humiliation that happened years ago can show up as anxiety, perfectionism, or self-doubt. In this post, we’ll explore how EMDR, IFS, Somatic Therapy, and Brainspotting can help you release what’s stored in the body, reconnect with confidence, and build a sense of safety that lasts.
Beyond the Pills: When Psychiatry Falls Short
Tired of leaving your 15-minute psychiatry appointments feeling rushed, invalidated, or just "off?" This post explains the crucial difference between the symptom-focused medical model and true trauma-informed care. We’ll discuss why the traditional medical system often fails people looking for lasting change and nervous system balance. Click here to read the full article and find power in your mental health care.
A Silent Grief: When Friendship Ends & No One Mourns
There’s a quiet grief when a vital friendship ends and no one mourns. This unseen loss can register in the body as relational trauma, leaving us with anxiety, exhaustion, and a deep sense of isolation. This post will validate your experience, explain the confusing mind-body disconnect, and introduce gentle, effective tools like titration and pendulation to help you finally find some peace. If you are ready to name your unseen grief and begin healing, click to read more.
Stop Feeling Guilty When Caring for Mom: A Daughters How-To Guide
Watching your mom decline due to memory loss can leave daughters feeling consumed by guilt and chronic overwhelm. If you find your over-responsibility driving you to burnout, it’s a sign that the burden is hitting your nervous system. In this post, we explore how IFS, EMDR, and Somatics can help process anticipatory trauma and regain security. Stop battling the guilt alone and find a clear path to resilience. Read on to discover your way forward.
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