Feeling the deep ache of grief and wondering when it will end? It’s normal for us to do a lot to not feel the deep hurts in grief. This post offers a different perspective, rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS). I’m inviting you to see grief not as an enemy, but as a part of yourself that deserves kindness and understanding. If you’re curious, read more here.

The term "miscarriage" can feel cruel, implying fault where there is none in the heartbreak of pregnancy loss. This is about the crushing grief of losing a longed-for future that deserves to be acknowledged with compassionate language. Society often falls short in supporting this profound pain, but EMDR therapy and gentle self-care steps can be healing. Let’s stop blaming and start understanding.

Living in 2025 can feel disgusting, confusing, and “OK,” causing deep existential grief for those who care about others. This distress manifests as a profound sense of loss and moral injury for helpers. For those of us who care and who want to fight, this collective pain requires acknowledgment and action. I commit to lifelong learning, amplifying voices, and tangible support for a more just world. You can, too!

Betrayal's pain isn't just in romance; it can deeply wound our childhood trust. "Betrayal blindness" develops as an unconscious way to cope with this early hurt. However, these unseen wounds, sometimes called betrayal wounds, can shape our adult relationships and our ability to trust. Recognizing these patterns is the first step towards healing and building healthier connections.

We typically associate grief with loss through death, but the world of loss is much more complex. One of the most profound and often misunderstood forms of grief arises from the shattering experience of betrayal, particularly in the context of infidelity within a committed relationship. This is betrayal trauma, and understanding it as a form of deep grief is crucial for healing from an affair.

When a friend confides that they've been betrayed by infidelity, it's a moment that stops time. You see the raw pain, the confusion, and the sheer disbelief in their eyes, and you desperately want to make it all disappear. This guide offers compassionate advice on how to support your friend through the devastation of betrayal trauma, validating their feelings and offering practical ways to be a steady force.