Grief Counseling for Complicated Loss, Guilt, & Emotional Overwhelm
You’re the one who holds everything together, but things still feel unresolved.
Virtual grief counseling for adults in Colorado, Virginia, and Florida
You’re used to handling things with strength and logic.
You’re the one who fixes problems, anticipates needs, and holds everything together.
From the outside, you look capable. Reliable. In control.
But some things don’t respond to logic.
A loss, betrayal, or complicated relationship can hit differently.
It doesn’t always look like grief.
It can look like:
irritability you can’t explain
exhaustion that doesn’t go away
feeling disconnected from your life
holding it together… until you can’t
You might be noticing:
Deep exhaustion that rest or ~self-care~ doesn’t seem to fix
A shorter fuse or emotional overwhelm in close relationships
Trouble sleeping or constant mental replay
Doubting your own decisions or overthinking everything
Feeling stuck, numb, or unlike yourself
A loss of meaning or satisfaction in things that used to feel easy
This is what complex grief looks like.
Especially when:
the relationship was painful, unclear, or unfinished
trust was broken through betrayal or infidelity
you feel responsible for how things turned out
you’re used to being the one who holds everything together
If any of this feels true, you’re not alone.
If you’d like to feel steadier and more like yourself again, therapy can help.
Grief Counseling for Painful, Traumatic, or Unresolved Loss
Anticipatory Grief
Grieving something before it’s fully gone.
This can happen with illness, caregiving, or watching someone slowly change.
It often brings a mix of sadness, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion that’s hard to explain.
Traumatic Loss
Sudden, shocking, or violent loss can be overwhelming to process.
This includes experiences like suicide, pregnancy loss, accidents, or unexpected death—where your system hasn’t had time to make sense of what happened.
Trauma & Nervous System Overwhelm
When grief is layered with trauma (violence, sudden loss, medical crisis, or chronic stress) it can leave your system stuck in survival mode.
This often shows up as anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or feeling like you can’t fully relax, even when things are “okay.”
Complicated Grief
When grief doesn’t move in a clear or expected way.
You may feel stuck in loops of guilt, anger, or confusion—especially when the relationship involved addiction, mental illness, estrangement, or unresolved pain.
Betrayal & Relationship Loss
Grief after infidelity, divorce, broken trust, or emotionally complicated relationships can feel confusing and hard to name.
You may be grieving not just what happened—but what you thought the relationship was, or could have been.
This often comes with guilt, self-doubt, and constant mental replay.
Loss of Belonging
Grief doesn’t always come from death. It can come from rejection, abandonment, or losing your place in a family, relationship, or identity.
This often shows up as loneliness, identity shifts, or feeling disconnected from yourself or others.
How Grief Counseling Helps
This work isn’t about forcing closure or “moving on.”
It’s about understanding what’s actually happening—and shifting it in a way that feels real and lasting.
We slow things down
Instead of pushing through or overthinking, we start by noticing what’s happening in your thoughts, emotions, and body.
So you can understand:
Why your mind keeps looping
Why certain moments feel so charged
Why it’s hard to feel settled
We work through what feels unfinished
Grief often stays stuck when something didn’t get processed.
Things you didn’t say.
Things that didn’t make sense.
Moments that still replay.
We work through those so they stop looping and start settling.
We untangle guilt and responsibility
Grief, especially in complicated relationships, often comes with a lot of self-blame.
Together, we separate:
What was yours
What wasn’t
What you’re still carrying that you don’t need to
We support your nervous system
Grief doesn’t just live in your thoughts—it lives in your body.
That’s why you might feel on edge, shut down, or overwhelmed.
We work with that directly so you can feel more steady and less reactive.
Over time, you’ll notice:
Less replay and second-guessing
More clarity in decisions
The ability to set boundaries without guilt
Feeling more present and less braced for impact
This isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about feeling solid again. In your body, your relationships, and your decisions.
Hi, I’m Carly -
I specialize in grief and loss, especially when it feels unresolved or overwhelming.
Whether your loss is recent or something you’ve been carrying for years, therapy becomes a place to process it fully, not just make sense of it.
This Work Goes Deeper Than Talking
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EMDR & Brainspotting
Helps process the experiences that still feel stuck, so they stop replaying and start settling.
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Somatic Therapy
Helps your body come out of survival mode so you can feel more steady, less reactive, and more like yourself again.
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Parts Work (IFS)
Helps you understand your different parts (the one that overthinks, feels guilty, or shuts down) so you trust yourself again.
Common Questions About Grief Counseling
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That’s exactly why people reach out.
Grief isn’t always straightforward. It can include guilt, anger, confusion, or feeling stuck, especially when the relationship or situation was complicated or something feels unresolved.
You don’t need to have it figured out before starting.
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Yes, numerous studies have demonstrated that online grief therapy, when conducted by a qualified therapist, is just as effective as traditional in-person sessions.
I use a secure video conferencing platform to create a safe and confidential space for your healing journey.
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I specialize in supporting adults navigating a range of grief experiences, including:
Bereavement: Grief related to the loss of loved ones.
Traumatic Loss: Grief resulting from sudden or violent losses, such as suicide or accidents.
Complicated Grief: Prolonged or intense grief that interferes with daily life.
Betrayal Trauma: Grief from infidelity or broken trust.
Family Loss/Rejection: Grief related to estrangement or identity-based rejection.
Pet Loss: Grief related to the loss of a beloved animal.
Perinatal Loss: Grief related to miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death.
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It's completely understandable that grief can feel overwhelming.
I am trained to notice and respond to the micro movements, expressions, and nonverbal cues of overwhelm. Grief is deeply painful and can at times feel too overwhelming. This is completely normal.
My goal is to help you build internal resources to feel like you can handle the many, sometimes unpredictable sharp edges that grief throws at us.
If (and honestly when) this happens during an online session, we embrace it and adapt. We can slow down, distract, take breaks, or focus on somatic grounding techniques. We will get familiar with the parts that are concerned with your loss and make sure they feel validated and cared for.
I'm here to support you wherever you’re at, and we'll work together to find what feels most comfortable.
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Are you finding that the world feels different now, like a piece is missing? Do familiar things feel heavy or joyless? Are you caught in waves of intense emotion, even when you don't expect them? Do you feel disconnected from yourself or others, or find yourself longing and numb?
If these experiences resonate, you're likely navigating grief. Grief doesn’t always look like deep sadness or crying all day. This journey is unique, and online grief counseling can offer understanding and support as you find your way forward.
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Yes.
While we do talk, this work also focuses on what’s happening underneath—emotionally and in your body.
That allows us to process what feels stuck, not just understand it.
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Yes.
Depending on your needs, we may use EMDR, parts work (IFS-informed), or somatic approaches to help process unresolved experiences and reduce emotional intensity.
You don’t need to know anything about these going in.
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You’re not alone.
My clients are capable, thoughtful, and used to holding things together—but internally feel overwhelmed, stuck, or exhausted.
Therapy helps create space to actually process what’s been pushed aside.
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Sessions are 50 minutes and held virtually.
We’ll move at a pace that feels manageable while still making meaningful progress.
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The first step is a consultation call.
This gives us a chance to talk through what’s going on and see if working together feels like a good fit.
Step 1:
Consultation
We’ll start with a 15-minute video consultation to talk openly about what’s been going on and what you want out of therapy. This is a low-pressure way for us to see if it feels like the right fit.
Step 2:
First Session
In our first session, we’ll slow things down and get a clear picture of what you’re carrying. We’ll begin identifying what feels stuck and what direction makes the most sense for you.
Step 3:
Ongoing Work
From there, we’ll work through what’s unresolved at a pace that feels steady and manageable. Over time, you’ll notice more clarity, less reactivity, and a stronger sense of trust in yourself.
You don’t have to keep carrying this alone
Grief can feel isolating and hard to make sense of.
You don’t have to figure it out by yourself.
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