Welcome! This blog offers practical resources for understanding and healing burnout, guilt, betrayal and anxiety.
You'll find expert, easy-to-use tools informed by EMDR, Somatics, Brainspotting, and IFS to heal the root of chronic overwhelm and live with more ease and clarity.
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How Alcohol Affects Grief & Self Quiz
When you're hit with grief, it can feel like nothing really works to help you feel better. It’s difficult, and completely natural to want to make the pain go away or feel better. For many of us, alcohol is a quick way to get relief, but it can actually complicate the healing process. Learn the common myths and actual truths about grief and alcohol. Explore why we turn to alcohol when grieving, its effects, and healthier ways to cope
The Long Goodbye: How to Navigate Anticipatory Grief
Anticipatory grief is the unique hurt we feel when we sense a loss is coming, like a shadow casting across the present. It's the complex and often heart-wrenching experience of grieving while our loved one is still here. This post explores the many emotions that can arise during this time, from sadness and anxiety to anger and helplessness. Learn about the unique challenges of grieving before goodbye and understand this process as a step towards healing.
Neurodivergent Grief & Trauma: Could EMDR Therapy Work for You?
EMDR therapy offers a structured yet adaptable approach to processing trauma and difficult memories. It could be a supportive option for neurodivergent folks. This post explores how EMDR can be particularly beneficial for those with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and ADHD. Learn how EMDR can be tailored to individual needs, respecting unique processing styles and promoting healing without overwhelming the system.
Finding Peace with Mortality: What is Death Therapy & EMDR in Bereavement
Facing our own mortality or grieving the loss of someone dear can bring a whirlwind of complex emotions. Death therapy offers a specialized path of support, and powerful tools like EMDR can help process trauma and intense feelings. Explore what death therapy is, how EMDR can be beneficial in bereavement, and other supportive therapies that can help you find peace.
Be Kind to Your Grief: Quick Read
Feeling the deep ache of grief and wondering when it will end? It’s normal for us to do a lot to not feel the deep hurts in grief. This post offers a different perspective, rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS). I’m inviting you to see grief not as an enemy, but as a part of yourself that deserves kindness and understanding. If you’re curious, read more here.
It's Not a Miscarriage: The Crushing Grief of Pregnancy Loss
The term "miscarriage" can feel cruel, implying fault - where there is none - in the heartbreak of pregnancy loss. This is about the crushing grief of losing a longed-for future that deserves to be acknowledged with compassionate language. Society often falls short in supporting this profound pain, but EMDR therapy and gentle self-care steps can be healing. Let’s stop blaming and start understanding. Read on to learn more.
The “Political” Grief of Living in 2025 As a Person Who Cares About Others
Living in 2025 can feel disgusting, confusing, and “OK,” causing deep existential grief for those who care about others. This distress manifests as a profound sense of loss and moral injury for helpers. For those of us who care and who want to fight, this collective pain requires acknowledgment and action. I commit to lifelong learning, amplifying voices, and tangible support for a more just world. You can, too!
Betrayal Isn't Just for Romance: The Unseen Wounds of Broken Trust
Betrayal's pain isn't just in romance; it can deeply wound our childhood trust. "Betrayal blindness" develops as an unconscious way to cope with this early hurt. However, these unseen wounds, sometimes called betrayal wounds, can shape our adult relationships and our ability to trust. Recognizing these patterns is the first step towards healing and building healthier connections.
The Unspoken Grief: Understanding Betrayal Trauma & Its Impact
We typically associate grief with loss through death, but the world of loss is much more complex. One of the most misunderstood forms of grief arises from the shattering experience of betrayal, particularly in the context of infidelity within a committed relationship. This is betrayal trauma, and understanding it as a form of deep grief is crucial for healing from an affair. Read this post to learn more about grief and betrayal trauma.
A Compassionate Guide: Helping Your Friend Through Betrayal Trauma & Infidelity
When a friend confides that they've been betrayed by infidelity, it's a moment that stops time. You see the raw pain, the confusion, and the sheer disbelief in their eyes, and you desperately want to make it all disappear. This guide offers compassionate advice on how to support your friend through the devastation of betrayal trauma, validating their feelings and offering practical ways to be a steady presence for someone you love.
Understanding Loss & Healing: The Many Faces of Grief
Maybe you've heard that grief follows certain steps, but your own experience feels different. You’re distant, angry and hurting, but are you “grieving”? Let’s learn about the multifaceted nature of grief. We'll explore the many ways loss can impact us, extending beyond traditional bereavement to include the grief of lost connections, shattered trust, and anticipated loss. This blog post explores grief, loss, and healing for busy adults.
Healing in the Mountains: Nature's Cure for Grief & Loss in Steamboat Springs, CO
Grief, in its many forms, can feel overwhelming. Here in Steamboat Springs, Colorado, the mountains and rivers offer more than just a backdrop - they provide a tangible pathway to healing after and during loss. We combine nature's calming power with EMDR, IFS, and somatic therapy for deep emotional release. Read this post to discover how intensive in-person therapy can help you find solace and renewal.
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