Inside My Mind: A Therapist’s Blog
I write about psychedelics, traumatic grief, reactive dogs, alternative therapy, loss and betrayal trauma, living in 2025, self-care, EMDR therapy, and other topics that I care about.
I hope you find something in here that helps you live a more confident life.
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Release the Pain of Infidelity with Brainspotting: A Powerful Approach
“There are three sides to every story: yours, mine, and the truth." When infidelity hits, it shatters your world. Discover how Brainspotting therapy can help you navigate betrayal trauma, release deep-seated pain, rebuild self-trust, and find peace. If you want to release the pain from infidelity, Brainspotting might be the choice for you. Read more about Brainspotting for infidelity here.
Navigating the After of an Affair: Find Your Footing with EMDR Therapy
When an affair hits, it doesn't just hurt – it feels like your whole world flips upside down. You're left in pain, wondering how to make sense of anything. As a therapist, I know this isn't just about anger or sadness, it's a deep betrayal trauma that shakes you to your core. But here's the powerful truth: you can heal from this. Discover how EMDR therapy can help you find calm, rebuild self-trust, and reclaim your story after infidelity. This is your path to peace.
Supporting Your Neurodivergent Loved One Through Grief and Loss: A Practical Guide
Grief is universal human experience, and its expression is unique and depends on our personality, trauma, and brain wiring. For those supporting autistic or neurodivergent loved ones, understanding and respecting this expression is so important. This guide is for you, the ally, the friend, the family member, seeking to support your loved one during times of loss, in all its complex forms. Read on to discover practical tips and advice for offering genuine support.
Understanding Divorce When You're Neurodivergent: Challenges and Support
Divorce presents challenges for neurodivergent individuals, impacting the different routines, communication styles, and sensory experiences. If you identify as autistic or are otherwise neurodivergent and going through a divorce, this is for you. Understand the specific hurdles you might be facing and find support in this blog post.
Navigating the Emotional Impact of Early Menopause: A Therapist's Guide
Early menopause isn't just a physical shift - it's an emotional journey that might include grief. You might feel confused, sad, scared, angry, guilty or a whole range of different emotions. Read this post to understand the multifaceted losses, find practical tools, and know you're not alone in navigating this unexpected farewell to a chapter of your life.
A Little Self EMDR Treat: Quick Read + Exercise
EMDR is a unique therapy that works with your sub lingual and helps you connect with more “true” or “adaptive” material that is already within you. This posts is intended to be used for fun or entertainment rather than for any therapeutic purpose. It is not therapy and it is not medical advice.
The Lingering Shadow: Understanding Complicated Grief and Unmourned Losses
Feeling irritable, distressed, or emotionally distant? It might be the lingering shadow of earlier, unmourned losses contributing to complicated grief. Explore this often-overlooked connection and discover how EMDR, IFS, and Somatic Therapy can offer pathways to healing for your mind, body, and inner world.
Stigmatized Grief: Loss to Suicide, Addiction, or Violence
The world acknowledges certain heartbreaks, we have offerings of comfort and rituals for mourning. But what about the losses carried in silence or met with judgment, like those from suicide, addiction, or violence? This is disenfranchised grief – the pain that feels unseen and unsupported by society. This post helps you understand and validate this unique grief experience.
Grieving an Abusive Parent: Understanding Your Brain and Body's Response
If you're confused because of losing an abusive parent, it's because your brain is grappling with a deep biological conflict, and this creates understandable chaos. Your system is wired to seek safety through attachment to this person, yet they were an are also a source of danger and fear. This conflict leads to complex, intertwined emotions, like grief mixed with anger or relief, which are a core part of grieving someone who held such contradictory roles. Read on to learn about your complex grief and how to move through it with compassion.
The Unexpected Places Grief Hides: Not Always Just Sadness
We often think of grief as just deep sadness after loss, but it's also a helpful process our minds and bodies use to navigate intense emotions. This "grief capsule" is important to our process. Feelings like irritability or fatigue can be disruptive. Recognizing these less obvious signs is a step towards healing. Grief is deeply personal, deserves compassion.