Inside My Mind: A Therapist’s Blog
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Why We Can’t “Just Have Fun!” After an Affair (And How to Get Fun Back)
When an affair shatters your world, fun and curiosity vanish, replaced by betrayal and a brain in survival mode. You might feel lost, frozen, and wonder if joy is possible ever again. Society might expect you to "just move on," but that dismisses the deep relational trauma that truly lingers. Discover how to reclaim your openness, curiosity, and even fun after betrayal. Read to learn about different types of therapy and how they heal betrayal trauma.
It's Not Just Heartbreak: EMDR for Healing Breakup and Divorce Trauma
Struggling with the end of a relationship? A breakup or divorce can be the upheaval of life as you knew it. You might feel lost, frozen, and wonder if true healing is even possible. Society often expects us to "just move on," but that dismisses the deep relational trauma that lingers. Discover how EMDR therapy offers an effective pathway to process this unique grief and reclaim peace. Read on to learn if EMDR might be right for you.
An Unseen Weight: Why Caretakers Experience Deep Grief (And How to Heal It)
If you're a caretaker – a nurse, therapist, teacher, or EMT – you carry unique, often unseen, grief. This isn't just burnout, it's a profound emotional weight. This post explores why caretakers experience this deep bereavement and how specialized therapeutic approaches like EMDR, IFS, Somatic Therapy, and Brainspotting offer powerful pathways to healing and reclaiming your well-being. If you are a caretaker and you’re depleted, learn how to finally get the care you need.
Brainspotting Therapy after Trauma: Reclaim Your Confidence
When trauma, especially betrayal trauma like infidelity, leaves its mark, self-doubt bubbles and grows. But what if there's a way to process those deep wounds and reclaim your inner strength? This post explores Brainspotting Therapy, a neurobiological approach to healing that helps you truly step back into your inherent confidence. If you’re curious about rebuilding your confidence after trauma, read on to learn more.
Release the Pain of Infidelity with Brainspotting: A Powerful Approach
“There are three sides to every story: yours, mine, and the truth." When infidelity hits, it shatters your world. Discover how Brainspotting therapy can help you navigate betrayal trauma, release deep-seated pain, rebuild self-trust, and find peace. If you want to release the pain from infidelity, Brainspotting might be the choice for you. Read more about Brainspotting for infidelity in this blog post.
Navigating the After of an Affair: Find Your Footing with EMDR Therapy
When an affair hits, it doesn't just hurt – it feels like your whole world flips upside down. You're left in pain, wondering how to make sense of anything. As a therapist, I know this isn't just about anger or sadness, it's a deep betrayal trauma that shakes you to your core. But here's the powerful truth: you can heal from this. Discover how EMDR therapy can help you find calm, rebuild self-trust, and reclaim your story after infidelity. This is your path to peace.
Supporting Your Neurodivergent Loved One Through Grief and Loss: A Practical Guide
Grief is universal human experience, and its expression is unique and depends on our personality, trauma, and brain wiring. For those supporting autistic or neurodivergent loved ones, understanding and respecting this expression is so important. This guide is for you, the ally, the friend, the family member, seeking to support your loved one during times of loss, in all its complex forms. Read on to discover practical tips and advice for offering genuine support.
Understanding Divorce When You're Neurodivergent: Challenges and Support
Divorce presents challenges for neurodivergent individuals, impacting the different routines, communication styles, and sensory experiences. If you identify as autistic or are otherwise neurodivergent and going through a divorce, this is for you. Understand the specific hurdles you might be facing and find support in this blog post.
A Therapist's Guide to Grieving Early Menopause
Early menopause isn't just a physical shift - it's an emotional journey that might include grief. You might feel confused, sad, scared, angry, guilty or a whole range of different emotions. Read this post to understand the multifaceted losses, find practical tools, and know you're not alone in navigating this unexpected farewell to a chapter of your life.
A Little Self EMDR Treat: Quick Read and Exercise
EMDR is a unique therapy that works with your sub lingual and helps you connect with more “true” or “adaptive” material that is already within you. This posts is intended to be used for fun or entertainment rather than for any therapeutic purpose. It is not therapy and it is not medical advice. Read this blog to participate in the exercise.
The Lingering Shadow: Understanding Complicated Grief and Unmourned Losses
Feeling irritable, distressed, or emotionally distant? It might be the lingering shadow of earlier, unmourned losses contributing to complicated grief. Explore this often-overlooked connection and discover how EMDR, IFS, and Somatic Therapy can offer pathways to healing for your mind, body, and inner world.
Stigmatized Grief: Loss to Suicide, Addiction, or Violence
The world acknowledges certain heartbreaks, we have offerings of comfort and rituals for mourning. But what about the losses carried in silence or met with judgment, like those from suicide, addiction, or violence? This is disenfranchised grief – the pain that feels unseen and unsupported by society. This post helps you understand and validate this unique grief experience.