Welcome! This blog offers practical resources for understanding and healing burnout, guilt, betrayal and anxiety.
You'll find expert, easy-to-use tools informed by EMDR, Somatics, Brainspotting, and IFS to heal the root of chronic overwhelm and live with more ease and clarity.
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EMDR for Grieving an Abusive or Neglectful Parent
Grief after childhood abuse or grieving a complicated relationship with a caretaker isn’t straightforward. It’s layered with trauma, unfinished attachment, and beliefs like “it was my fault.” EMDR therapy helps you reprocess what happened so you can mourn without staying stuck in survival mode. If you’re looking for a way to process a difficult relationship with a person responsible for your wellbeing, EMDR might be for you.
When Home Hurts: Finding Healing from Childhood Abuse
Do you carry a heavy anxiety, feeling like you're always doing too much or are never quite enough? These feelings often stem from upsetting, abusive childhood experiences, especially if safety was compromised by those meant to protect you. Your ACE score offers a compassionate lens to understand these past hurts. Discover how specialized therapy can guide you toward healing these old wounds and reclaiming your authentic self. If you had a difficult childhood, this one’s for you.
Grieving an Abusive Caretaker: Understanding Your Brain & Body's Response
If you're confused because of losing an abusive parent, it's because your brain is grappling with a deep biological conflict, and this creates understandable chaos. Your system is wired to seek safety through attachment to this person, yet they were an are also a source of danger and fear. This conflict leads to complex, intertwined emotions, like grief mixed with anger or relief, which are a core part of grieving someone who held such contradictory roles. Read on to learn about your complex grief and how to move through it with compassion.
Betrayal Isn't Just for Romance: The Unseen Wounds of Broken Trust
Betrayal's pain isn't just in romance; it can deeply wound our childhood trust. "Betrayal blindness" develops as an unconscious way to cope with this early hurt. However, these unseen wounds, sometimes called betrayal wounds, can shape our adult relationships and our ability to trust. Recognizing these patterns is the first step towards healing and building healthier connections.
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