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When Grief Gets Stuck: EMDR & Parts Work For Loss
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When Grief Gets Stuck: EMDR & Parts Work For Loss

Grief isn’t something to fix or complete. Sometimes a part of us remains stuck in the moment everything changed, holding the shock, guilt, and pain that were too much to process at the time. From an EMDR and IFS pov, this is what “complicated grief” can looklike in the nervous system. Healing isn’t about forgetting - it’s helping those stuck parts come back into the present. Click to learn how to help your grief.

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Healing from Childhood Bullying: EMDR for Confidence
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Healing from Childhood Bullying: EMDR for Confidence

For many adults, childhood bullying lives quietly in the body, shaping how safe we feel with others. The teasing, exclusion, or humiliation that happened years ago can show up as anxiety, perfectionism, or self-doubt. In this post, we’ll explore how EMDR, IFS, Somatic Therapy, and Brainspotting can help you release what’s stored in the body, reconnect with confidence, and build a sense of safety that lasts.

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Fuck "Forgive and Forget": Healing After Infidelity with EMDR Therapy
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Fuck "Forgive and Forget": Healing After Infidelity with EMDR Therapy

Your spouse had an affair, and now you're here. The shock of betrayal can shatter your world and peace. If you're struggling to move past the pain, know that true healing is possible. Discover how EMDR therapy can help you process the trauma and reclaim your life. Read on to learn about recovering from betrayal trauma.

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A Step-by-Step Guide to Healing from Betrayal Trauma with EMDR
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A Step-by-Step Guide to Healing from Betrayal Trauma with EMDR

If you recently discovered an affair and you’re feeling lost, angry, and confused - this one’s for you. The ground beneath you has shattered, and you’ve been transported into a world you never wanted to be in. The discovery of infidelity is brutal, and that sense of impending doom, the foggy memory, and the intense emotional swings are real. Read on for a step-by-step guide to using EMDR for betrayal trauma.

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Why Betrayal Trauma Hits Harder When You're Used to Being in Control
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Why Betrayal Trauma Hits Harder When You're Used to Being in Control

If you manage complexities and lead with confidence, being betrayed is a huge disruption to your sense of order. This particular kind of trauma hits especially hard, impacting your ability to function and leaving you questioning everything. Learn why betrayal trauma sabotages your usual coping methods and how deeply it affects your brain and body. Discover powerful strategies, including EMDR, to reclaim your peace and natural strength.

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It's Not Just Heartbreak: EMDR for Healing Breakup & Divorce Trauma
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It's Not Just Heartbreak: EMDR for Healing Breakup & Divorce Trauma

Struggling with the end of a relationship? A breakup or divorce can be the upheaval of life as you knew it. You might feel lost, frozen, and wonder if true healing is even possible. Society often expects us to "just move on," but that dismisses the deep relational trauma that lingers. Discover how EMDR therapy offers an effective pathway to process this unique grief and reclaim peace. Read on to learn if EMDR might be right for you.

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Navigating the After of an Affair: Find Your Footing with EMDR Therapy
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Navigating the After of an Affair: Find Your Footing with EMDR Therapy

When an affair hits, it doesn't just hurt – it feels like your whole world flips upside down. You're left in pain, wondering how to make sense of anything. As a therapist, I know this isn't just about anger or sadness, it's a deep betrayal trauma that shakes you to your core. But here's the powerful truth: you can heal from this. Discover how EMDR therapy can help you find calm, rebuild self-trust, and reclaim your story after infidelity. This is your path to peace.

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The Long Goodbye: How to Navigate Anticipatory Grief
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The Long Goodbye: How to Navigate Anticipatory Grief

Anticipatory grief is the unique hurt we feel when we sense a loss is coming, like a shadow casting across the present. It's the complex and often heart-wrenching experience of grieving while our loved one is still here. This post explores the many emotions that can arise during this time, from sadness and anxiety to anger and helplessness. Learn about the unique challenges of grieving before goodbye and understand this process as a step towards healing.

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Neurodivergent Grief & Trauma: Could EMDR Therapy Work for You?
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Neurodivergent Grief & Trauma: Could EMDR Therapy Work for You?

EMDR therapy offers a structured yet adaptable approach to processing trauma and difficult memories. It could be a supportive option for neurodivergent folks. This post explores how EMDR can be particularly beneficial for those with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and ADHD. Learn how EMDR can be tailored to individual needs, respecting unique processing styles and promoting healing without overwhelming the system.

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Finding Peace with Mortality: What is Death Therapy & EMDR in Bereavement
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Finding Peace with Mortality: What is Death Therapy & EMDR in Bereavement

Facing our own mortality or grieving the loss of someone dear can bring a whirlwind of complex emotions. Death therapy offers a specialized path of support, and powerful tools like EMDR can help process trauma and intense feelings. Explore what death therapy is, how EMDR can be beneficial in bereavement, and other supportive therapies that can help you find peace.

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A Compassionate Guide: Helping Your Friend Through Betrayal Trauma & Infidelity
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A Compassionate Guide: Helping Your Friend Through Betrayal Trauma & Infidelity

When a friend confides that they've been betrayed by infidelity, it's a moment that stops time. You see the raw pain, the confusion, and the sheer disbelief in their eyes, and you desperately want to make it all disappear. This guide offers compassionate advice on how to support your friend through the devastation of betrayal trauma, validating their feelings and offering practical ways to be a steady presence for someone you love.

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Losing Trust & Finding Solace After Betrayal Trauma
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Losing Trust & Finding Solace After Betrayal Trauma

Infidelity, betrayal, affairs, cheating. All shatter trust, security, and our sense of self, leaving a void that demands to be grieved. We lose not only the person we thought we knew, but also the life and future we envisioned. Healing from this betrayal trauma grief requires courage, self-compassion, and understanding. This post explores how to navigate this grief, offering coping strategies and insights into how EMDR therapy can help reclaim your path to healing.

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